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The Tyranny of Secrecy

I don’t think that secrecy is a good thing.  I don’t think it’s healthy and I don’t think it’s beneficial to anyone.  Secrecy is a condition that allows all manner of malevolence to thrive.  Secrecy allows wounds to fester in the darkness and spread infection throughout the family system.

I’ve heard 12-steppers speak of the ways in which their families are affected by keeping secret the alcoholism of one or more family members.  Keeping that afflicted family member’s secret adversely affects everyone in the family.  One rationale for keeping such secrets is shame. 

The same is true of families in which there is physical, mental and/or emotional abuse.  There is shame attached to allowing domestic abuse to continue.  More importantly, there is the very real danger of serious injury or death.

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  • Jamie
    Jamie says #
    The isolation that secrecy fosters is like a poison-tipped arrow. Metaphorically speaking, far more damaging than the wound itself
  • Aline "Macha" O'Brien
    Aline "Macha" O'Brien says #
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