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Deborah Castellano

Deborah Castellano

Deborah Castellano's book, Glamour Magic: The Witchcraft Revolution to Get What You Want (Llewellyn, 2017) is available for pre-order:

She is a frequent contributor to Occult/Pagan sources such as the Llewellyn almanacs, Witchvox, PaganSquare and Witches & Pagans magazine. She writes about Charms, Hexes, Weeknight Dinner Recipes, Glamoury and Unsolicited Opinions on Morals and Magic at Charmed, I'm Sure.

Deborah's book, The Arte of Glamour is available for purchase on Amazon in paperback and Kindle.

Her craft shop, The Mermaid and The Crow ( specializes in goddess & god vigil candles, hand blended ritual oils, airy hand dyed scarves, handspun yarn and other goodies.

She resides in New Jersey with her husband, Jow and their two cats. She has a terrible reality television habit she can't shake and likes St. Germain liquor, record players and typewriters.
[The Rules of Exile] Rule No. 4: Arrange Your Face

Huddle up, #QueensInExile.  This one is for those of us who are still subject to court life.  If you were an actual medieval queen, think: coming back to court after exile, plotting your escape from court or getting in position to play your hand and go to war.  If you are a modern queen in suburbia, think any time there is a circle of people around a tyrant who are there due to force, obligation, familial ties.  Potentially: your in-laws, your own extended family, your extended circle of friends (not to be confused with your inner circle, the people who are actually ride or die for you), your work place, the PTA.

Were you taught as a child/teenager/young adult to be your most authentic self?  This usually includes ideas such as: doing what you love in the work place, always being completely honest, freely sharing your innermost opinions/thoughts/feelings, marrying for love everything else be damned, it doesn't matter how much money you make as long as you are happy and other first world country memes.

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[The Rules of Exile] Rule No. 3: Who wears that much lip gloss into battle?

If you recognize the title, you know it’s a quote from our era’s beloved princess/General of the Resistance, Carrie Fisher.  Up until this point, we have been cautious, sister #QueensInExile.  We left our respective courts in the middle of the night like ghosts, we’ve been Final Girl ready, we’ve taken what goods we can carry.  We’ve been hiding.  We’ve been casting our witchcraft in the dark of the night with our blood bound sisters. We’ve been planning.  We’ve been plotting.  We’ve been encrypting and decrypting.  We’ve put on our best dress, done our hair up pretty, put on our nicest lipstick.  We sit in our new tiny living rooms, our borrowed rooms with our hands neatly folded in our laps, perfectly made up.  Waiting.  Waiting.


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You Are Glamour.

So, I'm going to a sexy fun event tonight with a few of my girls.  As usual, I am barking at them about if they got their tickets, if their outfits are in order and what kind of pizza they want.  One of my girls is a Young, so she's like still just shy of rolling into work wearing the party clothes from the night before, so she was fine on what she wanted to wear.  The other two girls are my age and have busy careers and don't often get to go to sexy, fun events and didn't know what they wanted to wear to said SFE.  There was much twibbling and nail biting.   They were both a bit afraid that I would dress them as fairy princesses because I am a fairy princess femme myself.  I gave orders to one girl and gave her Lea Delaria as her new style icon and the second girl I told her to bring a bunch of stuff and we'd figure it out.

The thing is, what to wear sounds like a shallow issue but it's not.  I know a lot of people who stop themselves from going to events because they feel they won't look like everyone else or they have to dress in drag in order to attend.  It causes anxiety, it causes insecurity, it causes self doubt and sometimes even tears.  It's kind of a big deal when it gives this kind of reaction.  

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  • Raynet
    Raynet says #
    I grew up in a Christian Household, and was always interested in paganism. My parents would never let me have anything to do with
  • Anthony Gresham
    Anthony Gresham says #
    Thank you, as someone who feels they are ineptly stumbling down the path of witchcraft/conjure, it is refreshing to hear that I am

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Glamour Isn't Pretty

As many of you know, Jow and I take our shop, The Mermaid & The Crow on the road, primarily to Pride events and Punk Rock events.  While there are winsome Ladies of Certain Age with their silver hair dyed in glam unicorn pastels and young families with children with spiky hair and capes, the primary group of people who attend these events are Youngs.  More specifically, Young Women most often.  We've been doing these events for years now, so I've become accustomed to seeing these two legged gazelles with perfect skin romping in rompers like some kind of crazy rite that Pan would be thrilled to have.  They are lovely and, I think, lovelier than I was at their age because now everyone has Invisalign, a dermatologist and a far better diet.

Here's the thing.

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  • Tacy West
    Tacy West says #
    I agree. I was in my 20's during the flower people, hippie, nature worshipers era and we were beautiful then due to diet before
Asking and Other Things I Hate


I am a fairly published . . . author. I still have trouble calling myself that, there's so much expectation with that word but I have a book coming out with one of the oldest publishers in the U.S. and a stack of anthologies that I write for regularly.

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You Don’t Owe the World Your Glamour

When you perform glamour stylistically and magically, you are thrusting yourself forward.  You are requiring the attention of others – strangers, your goddesses, your spirits, your ancestors, your loved ones, your colleagues and even the goddessdamned Universe Herself.

At first, you’ll be begging to perform.  At first, you give yourself away in pieces for the privilege of working your ass off to get to where you are trying to go.  At first, everyone will be indulgent and graciously allow you the opportunity to whore yourself out for them.

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