A Faerie Haven: Living in Myth, Being Magic

For some people, magic isn't something they do, it is what they are. This blog focuses less on theory and more on lyrical mysticism, applied spellcrafting, experiential awareness of Divinity, and related topics. A haven for you who long to become your myth and live your poem. Faerie tales do come true.

  • Home
    Home This is where you can find all the blog posts throughout the site.
  • Tags
    Tags Displays a list of tags that have been used in the blog.
  • Bloggers
    Bloggers Search for your favorite blogger from this site.
  • Login
    Login Login form
Francesca De Grandis

Francesca De Grandis

Francesca De Grandis, AKA Outlaw Bunny, authored the classic text "Be a Goddess!" Founder of Third Road, a Faerie Shamanism tradition that she teaches through both text and oral tradition, De Grandis explains, "I'm a non-theist, pantheist pagan serving Goddess. Mother and all my Gods, thank you." Ecstatic paradox. Bard, painter, spiritual innovator, Whedon fan, middle management for Chaos Gods, and busy elf, she also blogs, including on her own sites, www.stardrenched.com and www.outlawbunny.com

Whether you want a teacher of magic, marketing, or anything else, here are seven helpful hints:

1) When a teacher has a site, consider the following. If the site’s graphics speak to your heart, the offerings sound perfect, the sales pitch is passionate, and the testimonials rock, that is great. I hope it describes my site! But it is not enough. The truth is in the pudding: Is there content on the site, such as a blog that helps you achieve your goals? If not, the classes may be just as empty. 
 
2) “$3000 worth of services for only $200!” might represent a great buy. Or it can mislead. What’s the point in spending even $10 on a lot of stuff, if all of it is garbage? 
 
Last modified on
Recent Comments - Show all comments
  • Arwen Lynch
    Arwen Lynch says #
    Meant to also say that this is an excellent post.
  • Francesca De Grandis
    Francesca De Grandis says #
    Thanks, hon, glad you think so.
  • Arwen Lynch
    Arwen Lynch says #
    And ask to actually speak/email/communicate with some of their glowing references. I could put on my page "Arwen is the bomb diggi
  • Francesca De Grandis
    Francesca De Grandis says #
    LOL, yup, some people make up fake references! Bless you.
  • Ted Czukor
    Ted Czukor says #
    Excellent advice, Francesca. I would add that in the same way that a doctor may be loved by some patients but hated by others, it

Can you help me? Do you know another term for Southern Spiritualism? Since the 80s, I've been a practitioner of Southern Spiritualism, an American tradition of African-based practices. I never hear the term used anymore, and no one knows what I'm referring to when I use it, so I'm hoping there's a term more people are familiar with. 

I do not know what else to call what I practice, because I did not learn it from a book but from a community. The only other term we had for it back in the 80s was "American voodoo."
 
Here is a bit of cultural context that might help you identify the tradition: 
Last modified on
Old fashioned Witchcraft and Pagan Monoculture
Various musings on: tribal support for individualized worship and magic; Pagan fundamentalism; why arguing makes magic wimpy; and the power of forgoing labels.
 
I'm a witch but, oddly enough, many of my students do not call themselves "Wiccan," "witch," or "Pagan." They're more likely to say, "I'm just myself" or "I do my own thing."
 
They do tend to be eclectic. A lot of us, for example, are involved in African-based traditions.
 
But I don't define myself as an eclectic Pagan, because it would be a pleonasm in my case. 
Last modified on
Recent Comments - Show all comments
  • Ted Czukor
    Ted Czukor says #
    Dear Francesca, this is so spot-on. It's a shame that the people who really need to hear it will be the last ones to ever listen!
  • Francesca De Grandis
    Francesca De Grandis says #
    It is sad that stifling codification happens in every tradition, within a couple generations of its founder. (Codification need no
  • JudithAnn
    JudithAnn says #
    Wise insights. Thank you for shedding light. Native Americans value their oral traditions and believe that a living language cha
  • Francesca De Grandis
    Francesca De Grandis says #
    JudithAnn, Oops, I accidentally posted before finished. Thank you very much for reading my post and your supportive comments. Glad
  • Francesca De Grandis
    Francesca De Grandis says #
    JudithAnn, I could not agree with you more about oral tradition. Most people do not understand when I say oral tradition dies if w

I see dappled light and go to rest in it. I am fierce, when needed. I live a warrior's life, so know to seek peace when at all possible. There’s glory in war, but I do not seek war, only the glory that is mine for fighting well. I ignore petty jibes of a would-be warrior who long for fights to distract himself from his own poor stature of spirit. Or who antagonize others in hopes of stealing their position or their goods.

Last modified on
Recent Comments - Show all comments
  • Ted Czukor
    Ted Czukor says #
    A lovely expression, as always. I keep telling myself that I am not a warrior but a pacifist; since the 60's I have hated everyth
  • Francesca De Grandis
    Francesca De Grandis says #
    Ted, thank you for both your supportive feedback and the sharing of your own personal experience. Your experience embodies the spi
  • Arwen Lynch
    Arwen Lynch says #
    "I see dappled light and find peace in it." That's such a lovely statement. I love this piece. I think that I am not a warrior in
  • Francesca De Grandis
    Francesca De Grandis says #
    Arwen, thank you. Yes, like you, my battles are not physical, and I get harder and harder to bait. Have a peaceful day, my dear. T
  • Francesca De Grandis
    Francesca De Grandis says #
    Arwen, thank you. Yes, like you, my battles are not physical, and I get harder and harder to bait. Have a peaceful day, my dear. T

Posted by on in SageWoman Blogs

b2ap3_thumbnail_Diana2012.JPG

Diana Lucifera
Love, Beauty, Blessings, and Occult Danger
 

Diana, the Light Bearer. 
Magna Mater.
Goddess of Stregas.
You are all power, love, and beauty.
You are bliss.
You are eternity in which I reside each moment.
You are every moment.
 
This blog is not about the wonderful Diana that many American Pagans know—virgin huntress and patron of Dianic Wicca, a women-only witchcraft tradition.
Last modified on
Recent Comments - Show all comments
  • Arwen Lynch
    Arwen Lynch says #
    This moved me. Praying the prayer rather than simply reading it was an experience I can't quite put into words. So I'll just say t
  • Francesca De Grandis
    Francesca De Grandis says #
    Oh, my goodness, Arwen, thank you so much, I've known you a long time so and know you to be a person of depth, so I'm really grate
  • Ted Czukor
    Ted Czukor says #
    Francesca, your pieces always brighten my day. Thank you for the introduction to this Diana, for the powerful Prayer for Solace,
  • Francesca De Grandis
    Francesca De Grandis says #
    Ted, you are so nice to regularly read my blog. Thank you. I am glad you like the prayer. Using it has given me great solace ove
  • Carol P. Christ
    Carol P. Christ says #
    May the love of the Goddess be ever in your heart.

Posted by on in SageWoman Blogs

Try the Doors
Long term trauma, shamanism, bodhisattvas. Alice down the rabbit hole sees a tiny door. Hear me when I say, "You will triumph."

a1sx2_Thumbnail1_TryTDoors.jpgIf trauma is the door to shamanism, can long-term trauma make you a bodhisattva?

Yes, I made a joke. But not entirely.

What doors do you neglect?

What door is in front of you right this second?

Last modified on
Recent Comments - Show all comments
  • Amoret BriarRose
    Amoret BriarRose says #
    This reminds me of the Ralph Waldo Emerson quote: “I dip my pen in the blackest ink, because I'm not afraid of falling into my in
  • Francesca De Grandis
    Francesca De Grandis says #
    Ah, you are in the fellowship of survivors whose joy also survives. Whew, it is a ride! Thanks for the supportive comment and the
  • Ted Czukor
    Ted Czukor says #
    So good to hear from you again, Francesca. I was a mite worried about what I perceived to be an extended silence, and am happy to
  • Francesca De Grandis
    Francesca De Grandis says #
    Ted, thank you, my dear, I am so glad you like the piece. And you are utterly sweet, thank you for your concern. But not an extend

 There are many ways to approach magic—when I look with my Faerie sight, I see that the very fiber of our universe is possibilities and power. 

One style of spell-casting is to choose a certain possibility or flow—for example, abundance or love—then leave oneself open to it. This is often how I do my magic. I believe it's a very sophisticated, advanced working.
Last modified on
Recent Comments - Show all comments
  • Amoret BriarRose
    Amoret BriarRose says #
    Wow, that's close! Hello hello!
  • Francesca De Grandis
    Francesca De Grandis says #
    Hello hello!
  • Amoret BriarRose
    Amoret BriarRose says #
    All of this post: YES, YES, YES.
  • Francesca De Grandis
    Francesca De Grandis says #
    I am so glad you relate. I really appreciate you letting me know. I see from your bio that you live 1 & 3/4 hours from me. Hi!

Additional information