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Do you see a crown or a serpent in the meadow?

As if to defy the waning season, summer sometimes places a crown across the tops of plants in fields and meadows. Rising like the pointed palisades on the rim of a royal diadem, the wild cucumber vine (Echinocystis lobata) lifts its six-inch flower spikes toward the sky. Clusters of small white, star-shaped flowers give the plant a fluffy appearance by day, but in the moonlight, it looks like a great feathered serpent stretching across the landscape. The shape of the bright green leaves is reminiscent of ivy and, like a grape vine, wild cucumber has curling tendrils that help it climb over everything in its path or drape like a festive garland. 
      Its various folk names refer to the fruit: balsam apple, prickly cucumber, and cactus balls. Resembling something from a Dr. Seuss book, the small spherical to oblong fruit is covered in long, thin spines. It’s not surprising that the plant’s genus name was derived from the Latin echinus, meaning “hedgehog.” Although it is related to the garden cucumber, it is not edible—even sans the spines—and while not lethal, it has a bitter taste and unpleasant side effects. 
      That said, the tuberous roots have been used medicinally by the Cherokee, Menominee, and Ojibwa peoples for several ailments and even added to love potions. The Oglala used the seeds for beads. As the fruit decays, it leaves behind a brown, papery network of fibers that have been incorporated into jewelry in Europe. Native to North America, wild cucumber was introduced into Europe in the late nineteenth century as an ornamental to decorate arbors and fences. Like many other plants, it escaped the garden and made itself at home throughout Europe and as far east as central Russia. 
      Magically, the flowers can be included in love spells as can the vine, which also works well in handfasting ceremonies. Although small, the spiny fruit is symbolically protective and can be used to ward off any form of negativity. In addition, the vine can be wound into a circle and hung as a protective wreath on a door.

 

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 Wedding Tradition of Jumping the Broom ...

Chanting the Wedding Blessings

 

Hereabouts, just before a couple jumps the broom, it's customary to chant over them the Threefold Wedding Blessing.

Thirty-two years ago, I chanted them over two dear friends; today, in honor of thirty-two years together (and wishing them thirty-two more) I'll chant them again.

As one would expect for a wedding, the blessings are paired. (Read closely: the pairings are not random.) After each pair of blessings, assembled family and friends will respond: So mote it be.

(We have it from the ancestors that, when you respond So mote it be to a blessing, it is considered as if you had pronounced the blessing yourself.)

Then they'll jump the broom.

 

The Wedding Blessings

 

Grace of form, grace of voice be thine.

So mote it be.

Grace of charity, grace of wisdom be thine.

So mote it be.

Grace of beauty, grace of health be thine.

So mote it be.

Grace of sea, grace of land be thine.

So mote it be.

 

Grace of music, grace of guidance be thine.

So mote it be.

Grace of battle-triumph, grace of victory be thine.

So mote it be.

Grace of life, grace of praise be thine.

So mote it be.

Grace of love, grace of dancing be thine.

So mote it be.

 

Grace of pipe, grace of harp be thine.

So mote it be.

Grace of sense, grace of reason be thine.

So mote it be.

Grace of speech, grace of story be thine.

So mote it be.

Grace of peace, grace of all be thine.

So mote it be.

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Taking “articulate action” as a thumbnail definition of ritual, let us consider the wedding.

Two people enter separately and leave together.

That says something.

 

Say “wedding,” and I strongly suspect that most of us envision the standard “church” model: The bride is the star. Groom and assembly wait in place, bride enters in procession. Rites are enacted. Couple leaves together. I've seen the same trope in synagogue weddings, too.

This form marks a union of individuals.

But what if we consider weddings in the older sense: not just as the union of two individuals, but as the union of two families?

What if we rethink the wedding tribally?

 

Here's what I would envision, then: two—let's keep to two, for now, for simplicity's sake—groups of people converging from opposite directions, one clustered around the bride, the other clustered around the groom.

(For clarity's sake, I'll say “bride” and “groom” here, but the same would pertain for two grooms or two brides.)

They meet in the middle, the rites are enacted, and the party begins.

Let the two be one.

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 How Throwing Rice Became a Wedding Tradition | Martha Stewart

Some Thoughts on an Old Wedding Custom

 

The Received Tradition knows three rites of grain-throwing, and each is implicated in the others.

Grain-Throw the First: the actual Sowing of Seed.

The symbolism of this gesture, both practical and ritual, needs little explication, beyond the observation that virtually every agricultural society sees sexual symbolism here.

Grain-Throw the Second: showering the newly-married with Barley.

Barley is the oldest cultivated grain known to humanity: we've been raising it for maybe 12,000 years, since the end of the last Ice Age. Though it would be impossible to prove, it's my guess that we've been tossing it at newlyweds since the end of the last Ice Age, as well. The symbolism of this playful, immemorial act can hardly be lost on anyone. Speaking as a (naturalized) Midwesterner, you've really got to love the custom's implied micro-aggression as well.

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I have a sacred word to teach you.

At a Jewish wedding, when the groom (or whoever) stomps the glass, everyone shouts: Mazel tov!

At a pagan wedding, when the couple jumps the broom everyone shouts: Hurrahya!

Hoo-RYE-yuh, it's pronounced—rye like the grain—and better it be if you rrroll the R. It's an old Witch word, an exclamation of joy. It's one of that odd class of words called vocables, words that connote but do not denote. It doesn't really “mean” anything, but through such words we enter into that archaic, pre-verbal state of mind that characterizes animal calls, infant sounds, and cultic cries such as Euoi!

The rubrics of the Rites of Handfasting don't specify a call as people jump the broom—the broom that represents, inter alia, the threshold of the new life into which the couple are entering together—but Hurrahya! is what you shout as someones leaps a bonfire, so it makes a deal of sense for handfasting as well. Hey, what's good for the witch is good for the warlock.

As to where the word comes from: Reply hazy, try again later. This amateur linguist's guess would be that it's related to hurrah, another common vocable used by cowan and pagan alike. Hurrahya, though, is the Witches-only version.

In my role as wise old sage (i.e. bullshitter) I should probably be telling you that Hurrahya was originally some ancient god-name. (With that explosive hur- at the beginning, and the nice open -ya at the end, I'll leave it to you to guess Who.) Well, you can believe that if you want to. When, at the handfasting later today, I pass along just that story, I plan to be wearing a wry twist of the lips as I do so. Caveat credente: let the believer beware.

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 Wedding Traditions and Meanings: Jumping the broom

 

Modern witches have been jumping brooms at weddings pretty much since there were modern witches. One readily sees why: of the affinity between witches and brooms, you don't need me to tell you.

Jumping the broom in the sense of a de facto marriage, unsanctioned by either church or state, originates in Lalland Scots lore. It's from there that the custom spread to the southeastern US and became current among enslaved Africans, denied the right to legal marriage.

The first time that I presided at a public handfasting, the couple had made for the purpose, from the three traditional woods, a beautiful ritual broom. (Ash, birch, and willow, in case you're wondering.) Lo and behold, come the day of the wedding, the ritual broom languished forgotten at home. (It's not a real ritual unless something goes wrong.) So they ended up jumping a manky old broom from the janitor's closet instead. The broom-jump retained its magical transformative power, nonetheless. Hey, a broom's a broom.

As to meaning, I'll leave that to you to divine. Personally, I can't help but suspect that “jumping the broom” was originally some sort of sexual euphemism, but maybe that's just me. As a humble domestic tool, of course, the broom represents the home and home-life; I've also heard it said to stand-in for the threshold.

In lots of places, couples tend to do a simple run-and-jump—over and off—but around here we do things a little differently. First you sweep the bad luck away from the couple: three times around, widdershins, of course.

Then you lay down the broom. Three times, as people clap, the couple circles deosil, hand-in-hand. Each time around, they jump the broom. Third time over, we pelt them with barley, and done's done.

(Rice? Rice? Ha! What are you, some kind of cowan?)

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  • Steven Posch
    Steven Posch says #
    Ah yes, that lovely old institution of "indentured servitude": slavery lite. Yeesh!
  • Anthony Gresham
    Anthony Gresham says #
    Interesting, I thought the practice grew up in Virginia during colonial times when Anglican marriages were the only ones that were
Two Come Together as One: Marriage Rites

Nowadays, weddings are a big business and can be huge productions that take no less than a year of planning. Weddings are one of our most beloved rituals, and while they often cost a pretty penny, they are usually deeply meaningful for every person in attendance. My friend, the esteemed author Daphne Rose Kingma, wrote a lovely collection of ceremonies called Weddings from the Heart that run the gamut from traditional to highly alternative. This book is a great resource for engaged couples celebrating the journey of love.

I have had the good fortune to officiate at two weddings and have created a variation of the classic handfasting which I will share with you here. These are two very happy couples, so it seems that this particular variation of this ritual is effective.

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