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Reclaiming Menopuase

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There have been a few moments in the last few months where I feel I have come close to losing it. As I look over my journal I notice a secret language of symbols - flames, birds or mighty bolts of lightning - which hint at what was going on. 


I have to admit sometimes I can overlook what is staring me in the face - especially if it's part of me trying to talk to myself. The little sketched symbols are an ancient language holding feelings without the need for words. If another woman read these symbols etched on a cave wall what emotions would she get from them? Might she feel a connection? 

Those little symbols are something that half the world might be able to relate to at some point. I am not alone in this journey which is approaching menopause. I know I'm not alone in feeling that I am somehow losing a sense of self that I have come to understand as 'me'. 

Yet where is my community that honors this change? Who is at my side to reassure, initiate and help me make sense of all of this. Where are the stories, traditions, rituals, and ceremonies? 



Emerging From the Loch

My first wave of initiation which took me onto the path of menopause (although I was completely unaware of the deep roots of this ritual) was being called by old ancestral energies to the top of a far-flung Hebridean island, whose Gaelic names translates to the Isle of the Big Women, and invited me to submerge myself under the waters of the Loch. 

I emerged different, changed and somehow more connected to the female warriors whose story is well known on this island. 

As parts of the world are devoured in flames I feel a flame ripple through me. I am enraged at what is happening to the planet. Menopause is a rite of passage - there is the preparation, the transition and then the return. I want to hear women's stories of this initiation into themselves, this initiation with and for the planet. I want this change to matter, to mean something. I want to reclaim the stories and our menopausal experiences. I want to reclaim and to embody this initiation and honor all that is offers. I want to explore all the symbols women have painted on cave walls - I want to share the stories no longer told in our world, to share our grief, our rage as we honor this ancient rite of menopause and make it matter. 




You can read the full story of 'The Carrier of the Stream' here



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I am descended from a long line of wise women – for I too am a shapeshifter, a mythmaker, a woman who has always had one ear to the ground and a foot in the other world. I am a listener to old bones and a collector of stories that I gather from the shorelines, deep in forests or atop mountains. Sometimes my shadow shows my other selves sometimes crow sometimes bear, I am She Who Wears Antlers.

I am a radical doll maker, taking this tradition back to its roots and the hands of my foremothers. They remind us of our sacred connection to this world, the otherworld and our ancestors. I am a collector of stories, carrying old ones and those who need retelling.

I am inspired by the Bean Feasa tradition, a wise woman tradition that stretches back past pre-Celtic generations. People sought the wisdom of the wise woman in times of personal crisis and today this tradition can help us face this deepening global crisis.

I am a cultural activist working from the Bean Feasa tradition rooted in pre-patriarchy which honors imagination and creativity and provides us with tools that can help us overcome the psychological effects of patriarchy.

Visit my website for details of online courses, in-person workshops and our annual pilgrimage to the lands of the Ancestral Mothers of Scotland.


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